a poem by UKAONU DORIS OBIANUJU, Nigeria

The foundation for a thriving,growing,mutually supportive relationship is to be separate yet connected. In co_dependent relationships,each person sacrifices a part of him/herself, Compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected each individual 'I' contributes to the creation of a 'WE' that is stronger than the sum of its parts.
The difference between you and your partner are not negatives. You don't need to be with someone who shares all of your interest and views. We may sometimes fear that these difference are incompactibilities, but in fact they are often what keeps the relationship exciting and full of life.
This is to say that to maintain a fun loving relationship,a balance must thus be struck. This brings us to the word "COMPROMISE",where either party doesn't get to be satisfied,yet satisfied(contradictory huh..!). Meaning that partners must give consideration to each others WORLD despite dislikes. Therefore taking time to study your significant other. This has over time been proven to be the best gift a partner can offer in his/her relationship. A research has shown that almost a 100% of growing relationship/courting lack sensitivity to each others idiosyncrasies. Some Partners see this as an unending mirage,while to some,its been termed a silly joke. Relationships do dwindle cause partners fail 2 see each others transparency is at its minimal. This is very wrong cause irrespective of individual differences both partners must create a niche that houses all odds,so that despite all odds,love still flourishes. This is achieved with the aid of mutual understanding which gives birth to signatures in relationship..bizarre right..! I know most of you are wondering what d heck signatures gotta do with love..hmmm..well signatures in relationship are signs I.e body languages that a partner portrays,and its meanings can only be decoded by the significant other.. For instance when there are friends amongst partners or during gatherings and a partner acts bizarre I.e giving the 'signature tune' the other can tell what's going on.
Thus love birds,never feel you are incompatible with a person simply because you own separate worlds. Its no wonder why love never lasts. Its because we are always taking up that notch and expecting something magnificent. Well truth be told,there is no such thing as perfection..After all even the love gurus never said that one shall only love his kind.

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